[Python][Packaging] Wrong ARROW_SIMD_LEVEL=SSE4_2 on arm64 macOS wheels

[raulcd]

Describe the bug, including details regarding any error messages, version, and platform.

We seem to be passing -DARROW_SIMD_LEVEL=SSE4_2 to macOS ARM64 wheels.

wheel-macos-monterey-cp310-cp310-arm64

SSE4_2 is not supported on ARM:

 CMake Warning at cmake_modules/SetupCxxFlags.cmake:541 (message):
-- Arrow build warning level: PRODUCTION
  ARROW_SIMD_LEVEL=SSE4_2 not supported by Arm.
-- Build Type: release

I've realized this while working on the scikit-build-core build backend PR but this is unrelated to the issue as this is currently happening.

Component(s)

Packaging, Python

[vanshaj2023]

Hi @raulcd
I'd like to work on this issue.